Changing waistlines,bankruptcy and a dip in the river Jamuna

On the Diwali night the train i boarded was remarkably empty and so were my pockets.The last two months of no mobile usage had saved those precious 200 hundred bucks which would definitely be handy. I was happy on the thought that one of my friends was also traveling,after all some company never hurts.It was quite natural to think of previous Diwali nights. A year before last, FK and me had landed up in a dormitory whose other 6 occupants were 60 year old friends, spending some time on their own away from their families.It was friendship that bound 20 year olds with 60 year olds.In my first year at college, I sat in a general compartment of Howrah mail for 3 days to attend Diwali with my family and in my final year I returned back to college with a burnt hand,a painful Diwali night spent with my hands dipped in ice.

Standing in knee deep water in Vrindavan, I experienced one of the most beautiful sunrises ever.Don’t know whether the goosebumps were due to the cold or in anticipation of a the day that lay ahead.Vrindavan has always been a spiritual destination for me where I spend a day or two with the sages eating only once a day,sleeping on mattresses,bathing in the river Jamuna and meditating.The place has more to offer than an experience,sometimes it makes me ponder on the importance of seeing things for the purpose they serve e.g. the purpose of food is to provide nourishment and energy for one to carry day to day activities.Succumbing to earthly pleasures is quite easy and spending sometime here makes me more aware of the frailty of our minds.After the bath I parted with half of the money in my pockets which would serve as a source of ration for the sages for a few days to come.

You can say that my pockets were double empty  as i boarded an overcrowded bus bound for Delhi.The reduced waistline has caused a bring dent in my pockets and I am currently managing with just 2 pair of jeans.I would have had a third pair but then this trip would have not happened.I would like you to be in my shoes someday just for an experience,you will appreciate money as you would have never done before.You will definitely realize a purpose beyond buying pizzas and shopping in malls.I stood for the next 5 hours on this damned bus hoping to meet my friends soon.


I had booked the Metallica show tickets on the first day they were out.I read their biography , listened to their songs,browsed for the cheapest possible Metallica shirts and downloaded 3 live concert videos.But with every km traversed there was a mixed excitement,one of the concert and the other of meeting my friends again.Slowly the latter started dominating but the conflict remained until we lost our show tickets.Standing against the wall you could see 4 people laughing and enjoying a moment in which many others would have behaved differently.The sad part was not that we lost our tickets but that the show got canceled.It is sad for North India and sad for many people who had made sacrifices to see something great.

The day which had begun with a holy dip ended in high spirits on a Gurgaon rooftop. I realized that my friends are like wine who get better everyday though their essence remains the same.It was heartening to see that nothing had changed except for the waistlines.The next morning walk for breakfast brought me back to college days with the usual companions Bhale,Hula and FK replacing Chola.The rs.15 bread pakoda seemed  too costly as i explained my last 14 months to FK.I told him,”I read somewhere how it is important in life not necessarily to be strong but to feel strong.”Sitting on that table with friends i was a stronger person who had earned respect for himself.

“The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand ,nor the kindly smile nor the joy of companionship;it is the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when they discover that someone else believes in them and is willing to trust them.”

10 Comments Add yours

  1. bhale says:

    I know I am occupied with worldly things. I know I cannot survive without the luxury / safety of money. I cannot fathom how you do it. But just being able to associate / relate myself with you, is enough for me. May you have peace within, throughout your life.

  2. Abhinav says:

    @Bhale : Some things in life can only be realized by hitting rock bottom ,I don't know how you felt when we lost our tickets but at that moment I realized how strong our bondage as friends is.

  3. Chola says:

    Thanks Baccha, for one more inspirational post. Its great to see how you bring about positivity and spiritual touch in things you do. I think,the quote is from 'Into the Wild'- ".. not to be strong but to feel strong, To measure yourself at least once ". Rest, good that you guys had a blast. Reads like no one has changed ! Sorry, I missed Bhale's call else would have talked with you.

  4. saranya says:

    Even if I try sooooo hard…t s very difficult to be like you, Abhinav…. You are living your life to the fullest and in the way t has to be… You are soooo blessed…touch wood… I admire you soooo much and now I feel a little jelous!! Miss u…

  5. Abhinav says:

    @Chola : Yaar waise bhi it was not expected that anyone will change.The part of Anti bulbing big time is an example of it.Let's have some breakfast together like old days.

  6. Abhinav says:

    @Saranya : சரண்யா வௌல்து லைக் டு மீட் யு ஒன்சே யு கம் டு இந்திய. [Would like to meet you when you come back to India.)

  7. Sugar says:

    Abhinav, I really like the touch of spirituality you have given this post, and your life. Little values tend to be lost once the financial independence comes, and completely vanished once the salary fattens up. This reinforcement is very essential 🙂 keep it up.

  8. Abhinav says:

    @Sugar : Thanks a lot , just wanted to mention that all this is by choice for an experience.

  9. kritika says:

    I'm an extravagant person who spends from her dad's credit card on every possible occasion..but when I read this, it was like a jerk back to reality..Shit happens anytime in life..and i'm this silly daddy's girl who has so much to learn even now 🙂 Thanks for writing this,I loved this write-up.

  10. Abhinav says:

    @ Kritika : Welcome to the blog.It is important to measure oneself in life once.Often adverse situations teach us a lot and bring out those dormant traits in our nature.

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